Couples Counseling

Even The Strongest Relationships Face Stormy Weather

Romantic partnerships often bear the weight of life’s most intense transitions. Parenthood, career changes, relocation, illness, and the passing of time can all quietly chip away at even the strongest bonds. Yet many of us hesitate to seek help. 

According to relationship expert John Gottman, most partners wait an average of six years before reaching out for support. By that time hurtful dynamics have often taken root and misunderstandings can become recurring patterns.1

The longer these issues go unaddressed, the more difficult it may feel to find your way back to emotional closeness. But just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean your relationship is broken.

We Often Lack The Basic Skills To Fulfill The Role Of “Romantic Partner”

Part of the challenge is that we’ve been taught how love should look, but rarely how it should function. Our culture often encourages fairy-tale expectations through novels, songs, and movies, making real relationships feel like a letdown. Add to that the pressure of being everything to one another—best friend, co-parent, therapist, cheerleader—and the burden becomes understandable.

Few of us received a roadmap for healthy emotional expression. Many people grew up in homes where vulnerability was discouraged or where arguments were the norm. So we enter adult relationships without the tools for honest communication, conflict resolution, or articulating our needs. It’s no wonder even well-meaning partners fall into cycles of blame, avoidance, or resentment.

But you don’t have to navigate these challenges alone. Couples counseling offers a space where both partners can feel heard and understood, free from judgment or blame. With the right guidance and a shared willingness to grow, healing, clarity, and a renewed sense of partnership are possible.

You May Still Be Wondering If Couples Therapy Is Right For You...

We aren’t married yet, but I think couples counseling may be beneficial for us.

I love working with couples who are engaged or preparing for a deeper commitment. Early support can help you build healthy foundations before you make a long-term commitment. Together, we can explore how you can express your emotions openly, understand each other’s needs, and develop habits that promote real trust, connection, and mutual care. It’s never too early to start creating the kind of relationship you want to grow into.

What if I’m open to counseling, but my partner isn’t?

Some people are uncomfortable discussing personal topics with a stranger or may doubt that therapy can help. Others feel that they may be blamed for problems in the relationship. I can promise you that I will never take sides because I want you to be able to make meaningful progress.

However, if your spouse doesn’t want to participate in couples counseling, I offer Relationship Therapy for One, which focuses on helping you shift relationship patterns by yourself. Research from the University of Denver shows that this solo approach can be just as effective as couples therapy when one person is committed to change.(2)

Can therapy support us in a non-traditional relationship?

Yes. Whether you're exploring consensual non-monogamy, already in a polyamorous relationship, or redefining your connection in your own unique way, therapy can offer clarity, support, and a place to grow. You may be reflecting on what intimacy, commitment, and honesty mean for you or seeking guidance on how to navigate those conversations with openness and care.

Healthy non-traditional partnerships thrive on communication, shared values, and emotional safety. As a trained couples counselor, I provide a nonjudgmental space to help you and your partner(s) express needs, resolve tension, and strengthen your relationship structure—whatever that may look like. Together, we can support your evolution toward a relationship that aligns with your values and beliefs.